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Oh am I ever fuming! Okay my X Boyfriend Jay called me up about a week ago and we used to be great friends even after we broke up. We haven't spoke for about a year so we talked a bit and I went over there last night. Well he has this dog, Bud, I guess he has had it for 9 months. It's a black lab mix. We were just sitting there talking and he let his dog in, very hyper and out of control but I know why he is out of control. Well he was playing with the dog and the dog staring biting but now hard, just playing. Well Jay started smacking the dog and then he smacked it harder and harder on the face. No wonder the dog is acting up. I stood up and screamed STOP IT NOW! Im usually very calm and put up with a lot but now this. I told him Im leaving and he asked why. I said Im not going to sit here and watch you kick the crap out of your dog. I also said maybe you should get rid of him if your going to abuse this dog. He also give the dog beer which made me mad. I was so upset and furious when I got home. What do I do now? Can the humane society? He will obviously know it me but I don't care. UGH!!!! I just can stand this. Why do people get dogs, BIG dogs if they can't treat them right or teach them the proper way. Please help, what should I do now?


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WOW.. Im at a loss to tell you what to do. Im sure someone with more experience in the humane society can help you out.
was Jay like that to other animals while you were going out with him??
thats rediculous to treat an animal like that.. especially when Jay is the one that started it.


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aw,,thats to bad Courtney,,but maybe you couls just explain to him what hes doing wrong and what he can do to help,,,
I had an issue with the kid upstairs teasing Sasha, he thought he was plaing with her but he was teasing her,,,he would get a hockey stick and swing it around in the air for her to ctach and things like that,,,but he would nevr let her have it,,,,and he'll get right in her face and scream really loud to scare her and it gets me fumiing,,,so last night I told him to stop teasing the dog and told him that if he wants to play with her I told him how to do it,,I don't want her attacking the kids as soon as they pick up a stick,,,and I told him if he got in her face and screamed again I was going to wait until he fell asleep and go up and scream as loud as I can into his ear,,so he better not do it again


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Courtney, I know how you feel. I don't think that he would change his ways if you just yelled at home, what is his attitude like? Could you maybe talk to him and reason with him? If he respected your opinion, he would listen and stop hitting his dog that way, but it is a very difficult situation when the dog does not belong to you
Could you call the SPCA in your area and see if they would do a homecheck? I hope that there is something you can do!
I have been trying so hard to get Ally potty trained and they were doing very well last week and my friend had them for the long weekend and when I talked to her earlier she said that they had forgotten all that I taught them and kept peeing and pooping on her carpet. She lives in a condominium and doesn't have time to take them outside to potty very often and she doesn't want them to go inside the apartment at all. The last time I was over there, even when they pooped on the newspaper she put on the floor just in case, they got scolded. And her room-mate disciplines them by hitting them on their heads, quite hard. I am really concerned for them, but they aren't my dogs, the most I can do is bring them to my apartment and stay with me for a while and make suggestions to my friend about training, nutrition, etc, but in the end they always have to go back to their owner's place because they aren't mine.


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Aww That's sad clearjade. I don't know how anyone can expect to train a dog by hitting it in the head. I have NEVER EVER hit my dogs and trust me they can get VERY VERY bad, LOL. OMG Brandy that is so funny what you told that kid that you would go scream in his face when he was sleeping. That's so funny but good for you!
Jay has a very negative personality. He always has and unfortunately that didn't change. He's very negative about everything and feels sorry for himself. I did talk to him. I called him and said we have to talk. He did call me after I left but I needed to think and figure out what to say because I was just to angry after. He did listen to what I had to say. I told him that I was not going to be a part of him abusing his dog. I said he will loose me for good and I WILL call the humane society on him. I was really honest and just said that it's not fare what he is doing to this dog and asked him why he had a dog if he was going to hit it. He said he didn't know it would be that much work and that the dog doesn't listen. He knows Im an animals freak and asked what he should do. I told him treating your dog like that is not right and the dog will never listen and could snap on day and hurt someone. It wouldn't be the dogs fault but his but that dog would suffer. I said he should take it to school/training class if he can't control his dog. He has to start from day one. Retrain it and undo all that damage he has already caused. I said I will never go there again and I may still call the human society. He was mad but I was madder, LOL. Then he realized I was right and he apoligized to me. Im said don't apoligize to me, go say sorry to the dog, hehe. Im not sure where it will go from here but Im not going to give up on this dog. It's not fair. Im really at a loss what Im going to do but I really think Jay was listening to me. Jay was also abused when he was a kid, actually horribly so in a way I can understand him being negative but no matter how abused he was he sould NEVER take it out on an animal.


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I;m glad to hear that he was listening,,maybe you could take the next step an dfind out when and where he can take his dog to get trained,,,,,,and maybe he'll do it,,,even go with him and that way you know for sure that its being done,,I hope he comes around,,,,,,
My dad was very abused as a child and still has scars all over him and he has NEVER hit us,,,the only time he hit our pets was if they ran out into the road,,,,,and he did kill my bird once but he was drunk and sat on it because I thought it would be funny to let them out of their cages,,lol,,I was only like 4
Courtney, maybe if you just keep at it and next time you see him treating his dog bad,,,,tell him again!! he'll get the drift after a while


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Courtney.. Good for you!!!! you did a good thing talking to him and letting him know what you think. I hope that he takes the advice you gave him and uses it... and does better for the dog.


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Well maybe I could go with him to doggie school. I think he really is thinking about what I said. Im just trying to help the dog. I feel really bad for him. I mean I don't want to sound mean but I just can't stand watching a dog get abused. It's not all the time though but it's just too much for me to watch him do that. Sometimes I wonder why people like that would even want animals if they are going to treat them like that.
That's so sad your dad sat on your bird. I also know the feeling of a dog running on the road. Jack ran away once and it was just horrible. My dad was so angry and upset he just totally flipped and yelled at Jack. He never hit her though but after we chased her down and cought her we were all in tears.


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Courtney, I'm so glad that you managed to get through to him I am still working on my dilemma, lol! I have the girls tonight and they will stay with me until Saturday morning most likely. Yesterday when my friend came to pick them up they hid under the table and didn't really want to go, I really wonder what is going on there. They are also getting their Jack Russell personality back and getting more stubborn as they start to recover from the trauma of being surrendered and going to a few homes. Josh thinks that my friend will end up giving them to us eventually.
I wish I could just call her up and talk to her like you did with Jay, but that would probably result in alienating my friend and I won't have any contact with them at all. She isn't a bad owner, she never hits them, but her roommate does and that bugs me. At least her roommate is leaving at the end of May.


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Oh I hope you get them!!! Her roomate shouldn't hit HER dogs. That's not right. Jack Russlles are very high strong, high maintance dogs but Im happy they are getting there personality back. That's so sad. I do understand not being able to really talk to her. It could break up in a huge fight or she might take offence. In my case I really didn't care because he was gone for a year and could stay gone, LOL.