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Marigold: I can't believe you've never heard about that. It's very old and well used. And preventing pregnancy is much more accepted than abortion. Abortion shouldn't be used as a method of birth control, though I do believe we should all have that right. And there are plenty of people who do not want children and shouldn't be punished for that right.
Husky_Mom: Sorry this has gotten so nasty. Perhaps we should make a new thread?


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I agree lets not get mad at each other. I don't want that to happen. Lets talk about something much nicer like spring.


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You can have my share of the water ... ALL of it. Keep it far away from me. We have MORE than enough kids around here like it is. LOL


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Well, early congratulations to your family, Isabel! Will this be your second? or third? Sorry, I don't recall, but I do remember how adorable your little boy looked with all those puppies last year! Just remember not to gulp the water....you may end up with twins!


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Eeesh, chill out people!
I'm sure Isabel shared this information out of joy and excitement. She stated that her husband knows she is no longer using her form of birth control. If he doesn't want a child at the moment then he needs to make the effort for birth control now.
I don't believe it's possible for Isabel to just pop out a child by herself, so it's not like she's going to do it without her husband knowing.
Good luck with your hubby, Isabel, and hopefully he will give into your wishes sooner or later. You can have alllllllll of my PT water because I don't want any children.


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Originally Posted by Kfamr
Eeesh, chill out people!
I'm sure Isabel shared this information out of joy and excitement. She stated that her husband knows she is no longer using her form of birth control. If he doesn't want a child at the moment then he needs to make the effort for birth control now.
I don't believe it's possible for Isabel to just pop out a child by herself, so it's not like she's going to do it without her husband knowing.
Well in real life it seldom works that way kay. Women do have to take the
lead on preventing children if they are not wanted by both parents.
Anywho, I did not mean to start an controversy here or throw cold water
on a light hearted thread. Please forgive me Isabel, if it seems that way.
I will now bow out of this thread.


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You do whats best for yourself and your family HM...I'm sure you would always do your best for yours
Wombat


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Have great fun "trying" Isabel! It may take a few months anyway before you hit the jackpot so then your husband will get his wish anyhow


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Originally Posted by Marigold2
Sorry but I have never heard of a baby tricking a parent. If they don't want it let them abort or put the child up for adoption. None of us asked to be born but once here we deserve to be wanted and loved. Not all people become parents when they have a child some stay too selfish, childess and stupid. Some should never have kids. Children are too precious to not want. If you don't or can't take care of a child there are people who will.
OH good lord.... it was a JOKE. man you are sensitive. I meant trick the parents because we weren't planning on getting pregnant but we did and we couldn't be happier. It was a joke don't get your knickers ina twist... and I whole heartedly agree that abortion should NEVER be used as a form of birth control. BUT it should be available because that would only open a whole new can of worms.
And like I said before.... I don't recall her EVER saying she was going to trick her husband into pregnancy. She even said he is WELL aware that she stopped her current form of birth control. There is nothing TRICKY about making the man responsible for birth control for a while. My husband was "in charge" of the birth control since JUNE lol. BUT we made a miscalculation with the calendar and now we have a wonderful surprise..... BUT he has been ready for kids for a LOOOOOOOONG time... he was just waiting on me. I can't say I thought I was ready at the time but I sure feel I am ready now.
If he ain't ready then he has to learn to control his urges lol It takes TWO people to do this.
Isabel, good luck and eventually your husband will come around..... another mouth to feed can be a scary thought for anyone.... even those who think they are totally ready.


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Originally Posted by Babyboonie
I agree with lizbud.
There are too many "unwanted" babies/children in this world. However, if you and your hubby feel the time is right for BOTH of you, then good luck to you.
My hubby and I decided to start trying for a baby 18 months ago....we are now in the process of being referred for IVF treatment due to complications with both of us. Naturally I feel quite strongly about people who jump into pregnancy without considering what they are doing!
I'm the same way. I can't help but get mad when I see a teenager expecting when I can't conceive!
Sorry that was OT.
Sounds like he's just having the normal jitters that comes with actually "trying". Good luck!


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Originally Posted by sirrahved
I'm the same way. I can't help but get mad when I see a teenager expecting when I can't conceive!
Sorry that was OT.
Sounds like he's just having the normal jitters that comes with actually "trying". Good luck!
I agree. Our dear friends just had their first child. It was kind of a now or never type deal because she is older than him and it was a very high risk pregnancy as it was. He was not sure he was ready.... money, career, just being able to be a parent, period. I don't think ANYONE is truly ready when they see that little "positive" sign lol. but now he has a beautiful son. she put all his fears to rest and he is a wonderful father. There was no tricking involved....they simply talked out their fears and concerns.
Our other friends just recently got pregnant. they were both in agreement that they were ready. She found out yesterday and they are both FREAKING OUT lol.
No one can truly prepare themselves for the reality that hits them when there is no doubt that there is a baby on the way. Even the best prepared parents get scared sometimes


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Originally Posted by sirrahved
I'm the same way. I can't help but get mad when I see a teenager expecting when I can't conceive!
Reading back over my original posting, I think my emotions were running high! I am the same as you Sirrahved and it's a hard thing to come to terms with if you want to have children. I suppose in some ways I am still in denial and am convinced it will happen , but it never will naturally...if at all. Still at least the "tryings" fun!!
Husky Mom - good luck and have fun!


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well............ good I din´t see much of the discussion, but thanks to those who understand.........
this would be my second, if it ever happens............ so I thik I know what I´m doing and what to expect......... it´s not "just for fun"
and my hubby knew from the start so I was in no way tricking him.........
he just thinks he´s not quite ready for a second one right now.......if he waits until he thinks he´s ready they it´ll never happen.......
I stopped the BC because it was time for changing the "item" for a new one and since I have to wait for 3-4 months so they replace it, I somewhat seized the opportunity for the posibility of a second child.........
it´s not like I have to get preg right this second maybe around june/july or so...... if he feels better waiting then he can contribute on the BC......
there are other factors involving me wanting a child now, but they don´t seem to affect him, I mean he´s a man ha can hava a kid even when hes 70 but I can´t and I´m not getting any younger........... I want to have the physical condition to don´t sleep, be always on the lookut, play and everything a child involves.......I don´t want them to be too apart from each other agewise........
anyway thanks for your support and hopefully PT vibes work on my hubby fast so he "thinks" hes ready


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Well Isabela I say good luck.. However be honest with hubby on this matter.. Who knows it could take you till next year to get preg.. Then again around here at PT it could take lots sooner..


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Hope all goes well
My chances of having a child is low to nill. But I was still asked to be a serogate (sp) down the road. He said whether I can or cannot, I'm still first choice & only choice. So if I cannot, then they will go without aswell... Talk about putting it all on me, sheesh But I wont be your typical serogate, I will still have all my motherly rights & will be mom... complicated I know, but worth it.